This article, by a Brandi Hamrick, totally has me up-in-arms EXCITED!! Seriously, I'm physically perked up after reading this article.

It's so hard for me to explain (some of you may relate) but as a 26-year-old woman with an awesome career, a home I OWN, what I think are decent looks, intelligence and a sense of humor I'm starting to feel pressure to be in a relationship. Not from myself, but from others. They may not do it intentionally, but the things they say or do could be perceived that way.

I have honestly NEVER had a serious relationship. Ok, Ok...I can say I've been in ONE-HALF relationship, but that's a heartbreaking story. Have I dated? Of course. I'm no dating virgin by any means- but I've never had that one guy come over to meet my parents. Never went to a boyfriend's house for the holidays. Nothing like that. Of course, I wish I had that sometimes, but honestly, God's honest truth- it doesn't bother me.

I can remember from an early age what my mom told me: "Don't rely on a man to take care of you. Your father and I want you to have a career of your own and be able to support yourself."

This stuck with me and I wish that more parents would teach this to their young daughters. It's so important, in my opinion, for us to have our own voice. To know WHO we are, what we want from this life- afterall, we only get one go at it.

My personal philosophy is while it's awesome to be your own person- it's definitely OK to rely on a man- IF this man is worthy of YOU. It's OK to be happily married or in a relationship, but as this article says continue to enjoy your friends, enjoy your hobbies. This may seem OBVIOUS to most of you, but I have friends who don't get it. I've seen with my own eyes, these friends pathetically go from relationship to relationship....simply because they don't know what to do WITHOUT one. I mean seriously y'all? I NEED my personal time. I thrive on it. If I don't have it- I get pissy. lol (Shoutout here goes to Big and Little Pissy! ;-) )

Everyone's lives are different. There are different path's for every woman- I wasn't one of those women who met their husband in college- and I still have yet to find him. But until I do, I'm going to do what I want, when I want and enjoy the hell out of it- and will CONTINUE to do so even AFTER I meet the man of my dreams :-) No matter what your feelings on the subject, this article is extremely positive and encouraging.


Don’t Play Hard to Get…Be Hard to Get!

Recently a guy asked me why all the really great catches are so hard to get. Men are genuinely intrigued by women who are actually hard to get. There is something mysterious about her that leaves him wanting more. The gals who just “play” hard to get are easy to spot because their games have a systematic method to them that is a big turn off.

Back to those oh-so coveted women who are just hard to get. They have everything: great personalities, careers, style, fun-filled balanced lives, confidence, and numbers of men drooling over them. They don’t have to play hard to get, they are hard to get. Why? Because who they are as a person doesn't depend on who they are dating, or if they are even dating at all. For the rest of this article we’ll call them Wonder Women.

Tips on How to be a Wonder Woman:

1. Have your own life- Keep friends and hobbies outside of your guy. Even when you start dating someone in particular, don’t let these things go. Wonder women aren’t always sitting by the phone waiting for their guy to call, they are out living life. Women who play hard to get will often purposely not answer the phone when guys call, women who are actually hard to get are just busy.

2. Make yourself a priority-Wonder women know they can’t be all they are to everyone else if they don’t look out for themselves. Stay on top of your health and happiness. Do things that you love. Eat well and exercise. Women who play hard to get practice all these healthy habits long enough to land a guy, women who are hard to get make them a priority and a lifestyle.

3. Go for your dreams-Don’t be embarrassed about what you want out of life. Wonder Women achieve things in life for themselves, not just for men. Have the confidence to go after your passions and dreams. Do what it takes to make your dreams a reality. Complete whatever training, schooling, or steps you need to achieve your goals.

Isn’t it easy now to see how women who are truly hard to get, live balanced lives? They excel in many areas of life so they aren’t as concentrated on having to have a guy. They want a man who will add something to their lives; they don’t want a man because they need one. Wonder Women don’t swoon over every guy that pays them attention. They are very selective. Wonder women don’t have to “act” busy because they are actually busy out doing all the things that make them truly special.

Brandi Hamrick
Life and Dating Coach
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