Hey strangers! I hope to the heavens your week is going better than mine right now. Professionally, this week has been crap on my end. On the positive, the week is half over.
So, today guys and gals, can we talk about self-sabotage for a minute?
I think it’s safe to say everyone has fears and doubts in certain areas of their lives, but when does that start to become a true PROBLEM that needs to be addressed and corrected? (I feel like I’m teaching a psychology class right now writing this)Our behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals. Self-sabotage can show its ugly face in many areas of someone’s life: work, relationships, health....
My self-sabotage always makes an appearance when I start to get mildly serious with a guy.
I start to wonder how he could possibly like ME….why does he like me? Does he like someone else too? Is he texting someone else? Will he think I’m good enough after he gets to know me? It’s weird really….because I think I’m a pretty awesome person to know. I think I’m a catch! I mean, hell, I’d like to think so….and when I don’t think it I tend to “fake it till I make it.”
Ok, so WHY do we sometimes choose to ruin something GOOD for ourselves before that good even happens? A few reasons…but I can only tell you my personal reasons:
The familiarity of “failure” and feeling unworthy (sometimes)
Maybe I’m so used to situations not working out or to being around “dysfunctional people” that it feels easier to throw a wrench into something by behaving in some way that either worsens or destroys something promising. The “feeling unworthy” nonsense is less of a factor for me than the previous, but yes, sometimes my low self-esteem drives me to feel as though I’m not worthy of a quality relationship.
At present time, I’m past the mid-point of “talking” with a wonderful guy- he’s nothing short of amazing….a true change-up from what I’m used to….I feel so lucky to have him in my life….and the past week I could feel myself starting to slip into that self-sabotage abyss.
But I’m choosing to yank myself out RIGHT now….from the abyss that is. Haha.
Honestly, all of the above is bullshit. There’s no need for it and when you feel yourself slipping into self-sabotage, in ANY area of your life, just stop that shit. Stop right now…….
Because you’re good enough, you’re smart enough….and doggonit….people like you